It is one of the "dragons" that I am slaying. In truth I love dragons...so I would say "demons" instead--the personal untruths that we carry around that keep us down..keep us from being our true selves.
Anyway, I started realizing more as I was tweeting about this concept of "trying", and what my thoughts were about it. These are my tweets over a very short span of time.
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I think I'm getting tired of "trying". Just gonna stop. As long as a person is "trying", they're not really "doing".
So I'm giving up that notion. Not trying anymore. I'm either gonna do it or I'm not. Period. I sound like Yoda now...lol.
Like when I "tried" to quit smoking forever. That didn't work. That was a mental trap. One day I just quit. I didn't "try".
It's a misconception that you have to "try" to do something. You don't. You just have to decide to do it. Then you do it.
I have plenty of my own personal endeavors to test this on. I tried to do a lot of things...& I haven't yet. Now I'm saying f*ck that.
"Trying" is self-defeating. You're saying that you are not powerful enough to make up your mind & do something. You are!
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During my tweeting, someone replied that "If at first you don't succeed, do do again" didn't sound right. True. But the difference is that you ARE doing. For example, you say "I want to learn to play this piece on the piano perfectly." You are not going to "try" to learn it. You are not going to "try" to practice. You WILL practice and you WILL learn if you are diligent and you make up your mind to do so.
Where "try" becomes your enemy is when you want to do something...but you are already making an excuse for whatever reason. It's a guilt trip...getting beat over the head yet again because you "should" but you know you're not going to. This is me: "I'm going to try and get my bills and mail organized." Ok...that's an excuse. All it does it set me up to procrastinate and fail at actually even getting a start on what it is I want to do.
From now on...that word will be consciously banished from my vocabulary in that context. When I make a statement to myself or anyone else...I will say "I AM....", etc: I AM going to start organizing my bills. I AM going to do some yardwork tomorrow. And so on. AND....if for some reason those things do not take place? Then "I AM NOT" going to feel bad about it. I AM ok with it. :)
All the shit I have to do will be there waiting for me until I'm ready. There is nothing, and I mean NO THING that I have to "try". I only need to decide that I want to do it...and then DO it. And continue DOING it...until I am satisfied with the results.
Hope each of you finds something helpful in this insight. I know I have. I AM putting it to use in my life from here on out.
Love, A. :)
I think that's a wonderful way to live. I only use "try" in different contexts, as in "Would you like to try Vietnamese tonight?" or "I've tried several times to pull this cable through and it's not working, can you try for me?" I hadn't realized it, but I suppose I banished this version of "try" from my vocabulary a while ago.
ReplyDeleteAwesome! Thanks for pointing that out for me.
Thanks for commenting Conina! Nice to "meet" you. :)
ReplyDeleteGreat post. I like this and agree. It feels like saying you're "trying" to do something gives you a built-in excuse for failing. As you say, don't try - do. Yeah, it sounds like you're channeling Yoda, but there's wisdom there. :-)
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